In this episode, we’ll be discussing a topic that can be both exciting and terrifying for many women: pregnancy. Specifically, we’ll be focusing on how to conquer the fear of pregnancy, from two different standpoints: first-time moms who have never been pregnant before and moms who have been pregnant before.
Many women experience fear and anxiety when it comes to the idea of being pregnant, and it’s completely understandable. There are a lot of unknowns and changes that come with pregnancy, and it can be overwhelming to think about. But the good news is that these fears can be overcome, and that’s what we’ll be discussing in this episode.
We’ll start by exploring how to identify your fears and understand where they come from. Is it a fear of the unknown? A fear of the physical changes that come with pregnancy? Or is it rooted in something deeper, such as a traumatic pregnancy experience or possible loss?
Once we’ve identified the fear, we’ll discuss how to overcome it. We’ll talk about replacing negative beliefs with positive ones, and how to move towards a place of neutrality where you’re not triggered by your fears as much or at all. We’ll also address how to heal from past traumatic experiences and mitigate any lingering fears or anxieties.
Whether you’re a first-time mom or you’ve been pregnant before, this episode is for you. We’ll be sharing tips and insights to help you conquer your fear of pregnancy and embrace this exciting journey with confidence and joy. Join us as we explore how to conquer the unknown and overcome the fear of pregnancy on the Carolina Sotomayor Podcast!
What you’ll learn:
1:08 2 different kinds of viewpoints when addressing fear of pregnancy
2:55 Why it’s important to know where the fear is coming from
6:50 You have choices in your healing
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Podcast Episode Transcript
Hi, I’m Carolina, your podcast host and expert wound healer. Over the past five years, I’ve served over 500 women to remove physical blockages in their bodies. We achieve this with Reiki. I believe healing doesn’t have to be done alone, nor should it be. We will hear stories of healing methods to heal with and guest speakers covering taboo topics you won’t hear anywhere else.
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Hi, I’m Caroline, your podcast host and Ricky Womb healer. Today we’re talking about conquering the unknown, overcoming the fear of pregnancy. Before we dive in, I wanna make sure that you are giving us a five star rating review. Please take a moment. It’s a great way to support our podcast. Another way to support the podcast is to.
Screenshot your episode that you’re listening and share it on your socials and tag me in it. My Instagram handle is called The Carolina Soor, and I would also love to hear and know your thoughts about this episode today. Conquering the unknown, overcoming the fear of pregnancy. There’s two different kind of viewpoints that we need to address when we’re addressing the fear of pregnancy.
A person who has never been pregnant before, and also a person who has been pregnant before. with the person who’s been pregnant before. We need to address and honor their, maybe perhaps they had a traumatic experience and also maybe they had a loss, whether that was miscarriage or pregnancy loss. So, , understanding the fear of pregnancy.
Let’s break it down. How do you actually do that? And I love when we just dive straight in and it’s like, how do you do something? How to overcome the fear of pregnancy first, identify the fear. What is the fear? And a lot of our emotions, we feel a lot of complicated things, but are we spending time to sit in it, reflect on it, write it down, and identify it and dissect it?
So identify the fear. What exactly you fear of? Is it the fear of pregnancy and being pregnant and the person growing inside of you? Are you actually scared of birth and not pregnancy? Are you scared of feeling out of control and you don’t actually have control, you know, of how baby’s gonna grow? Or do you have fear over bodily autonomy in doctor visits, or your voice is not being concerned?
I think when we talk about fear of pregnancy, , can we get more specific? Is there something that’s about pregnancy or about your pregnancy experience that you’re scared of happening or not happening? So identifying the fear, understanding where did that fear come from? Was it your mom, was it your auntie?
Was it a cousin? Was her girlfriend? If I am late thirties, I’m in the season where people are having. My best friend just had her fifth baby. I have some friends that are working on their second baby. I am the season of just one and done. So you could be having lots of friends who are having babies depending on their experience, could greatly influence what they share between friends, movies, cultural influences are big.
I’m Hispanic, but I know in different cultures there is significant beliefs around pregnancy or things to be done in pregnancy. So you need to make sure like what fears are coming up and where are they coming from. And now as the age of the adult that you are now, do you believe that fear from the viewpoint as your adult.
Because a lot of times we react and have these fears from a younger version of ourselves. So for that, If I have scarcity issues or abandonment issues, I’m probably not reacting from my adult 39 year old self. I’m probably reacting from a younger version of myself, from child self of when I experience scarcity or abandonment.
So we have to look from a logical place in, again, being radically honest with ourselves. How am I reacting? Am I, is my inner child screaming and asking for security and stability and safety? or I reacting from my adult self. And I think that that’s important to understand and get to know. And if you don’t know, it’s okay.
It’s beginning of your journey. And then what do you wanna replace that fear with? So if we say, okay, my 39 year old adult self doesn’t believe that anymore about pregnancy, I could see how that, that doesn’t resonate with me anymore. Saw that in a movie. I’m actually scared of. The uncertainty of pregnancy, not necessary of pregnancy yourself.
Just that there’s so many variables. There’s so many things I don’t have direct control over. So what do I wanna in place that fear with is I surrender to all the things that I don’t know, but I know all things are working out for me and my baby. So that’s my new belief cuz fear is a belief, a limiting belief.
That you hold through. So what are we gonna replace it with? That’s super important. So when people talk about fears, what are you replacing it with? And then they think it’s really critical. And then how can that new belief that you just put out, how can it be established? Are you gonna say that daily? Are you gonna put it up on your wall?
Are you gonna put it in your mirror? How are you gonna make sure that that gets reinforced? And that’s mostly applies to women who’ve never been pregnant. . So let’s talk more deeply about the women who have been pregnant before and have had a loss or had a traumatic pregnancy experience. You know, how a person defines traumatic painful experience during pregnancy is vastly different and varies from person to person.
I had traumatic experiences in midwife offices. I’ve had traumatic experiences because I had a gallbladder surgery when I was 13 weeks pregnant. You know, I also had to make big decisions when I was pregnant, you know, with my horse and things like that. So it just depends on like what you define as traumatic understanding where that is and understanding is, are we carrying that forward?
Do we need to heal that event? How much healing has been done? And then do you feel like. It’s been healed enough because you don’t, you have choices in your healing, so you don’t have to completely heal something or go at it very aggressively if you’re not in a place for that. But it’s really important to address like, how are we gonna mitigate this fear?
So if you’ve been pregnant before, and most of the time when PE people have fears of pregnancy and they’ve been pregnant before, it’s usually regarding a. Or it’s regarding a lot of medical intervention or a lot of medical attention that’s gonna be needed. Meaning like frequent doctor visits, a lot of inconvenience, maybe perhaps a lot of medication or IVs, things like that.
Things that they don’t wanna endure. Again, none of those things are fun. Nobody wants to do that. So if we’re going to talk about overcoming that, It’s more about mitigation. It’s never fair to tell a mom that’s lost a baby ever that they would be in a carefree or blissful pregnancy ever again. I don’t think that that’s fair to say.
That’s That’s your goal. No. I think that if you’ve lost a baby, And you’ve had scares of maybe, you know, where you’ve had to be frequently watched during a pregnancy, th those fears are gonna be valid every time that that person gets pregnant again. So what can we do to reduce her stress in between those appointments?
What can we do to mitigate the fears with, maybe it’s bettering the relationship with the doctor. Maybe it’s switching doctors. Maybe it’s the support that she gets on the way to the doctor or during the visit. There are certain things that we can do to. For that mama, whether you’re her partner, whether you’re her friend, her doula, there’s so many things we can do with better communication to make sure that this mama is better well cared for.
And I think that that is a different approach than having a toxic positive approach of being like, well, you should just aim for a blissful pregnancy. That’s bullshit. If you’ve had loss and you’ve had pain, I don’t think it’s realistic to think that you’re gonna go into a pregnancy and not have any fears.
No. So we don’t wanna ignore what has happened. We don’t wanna ignore and we don’t wanna honor the past. So whatever it is her fear and it’s come from her life experience, we wanna honor her story and honor what has happened because we’re changed. After hardship were changed after loss, so it’s really important to see what we can do to make sure that we’re moving you to a place of being less triggered or to a place of neutrality.
I think it’s really important to understand that looks different for every person. If I were to get pregnant again, I would probably have a lot of. Not because I would be scared of losing the baby, but because of the experiences I had with the care providers I had before. So I would probably switch to an OB and not a midwife, because that would be more neutral for me.
Midwives now are triggering for me. I would. Probably seek an OB that was more open-minded for energy work and herbalism throughout my pregnancy. I’d probably be working with a Chinese medicine doctor for holistic care. I would be more involved in the decision making of my care versus. Being a yes ma’am, patient like I was before, and that would allow me to be less triggered because I feel like I would be more empowered.
So let’s recap. Conquering the unknown. Overcoming the fear of pregnancy is possible, especially if you’re a first time mom experiencing pregnancy or about to be experiencing it for the first time, and we just need to understand where those fears come from and come up with a new belief to replace it with.
If you’re a mom who’s experienced trauma or loss before and you’re trying for your next pregnancy, Understand, we just wanna come up with a plan, an advocacy plan, to move you to a place where you’re not as triggered or a nu, a neutral place where you’re not triggered at all, if that’s possible. And understand you’re in charge.
If you have any questions. I would love to chat with you about this episode and what your pregnancy infertility plans are. You can again reach out to me on Instagram at the Carolina Sotamayor, and until next time, my friends know that you’re loved. It was an honor to connect and serve you this week. If you are a spiritually curious person wanting to conceive, inhale blockages in your fertility, click the link in the episode description to learn more about the Fertility Foundation collective.
Until next time, my friend know you are love.