Today, we’ll be discussing a topic that many people face in their journey towards parenthood, the heartbreak of failed IUI or IVF attempts. It’s a difficult situation to be in, and one that can feel isolating and overwhelming. In this episode, we’ll offer some guidance on how to move forward when things don’t go as planned.
Firstly, it’s essential to take time to sit with your emotions and share them with your partner or a trusted friend or therapist. It’s okay to feel sadness, anger, or disappointment. Don’t try to push these feelings away or minimize them. Instead, give yourself permission to feel them fully.
One helpful tool that can aid in this healing process is a reiki womb blessing. This treatment allows your womb to relax, harmonize emotions, and release any residual energy stuck in the uterus and pelvis.
Discuss next steps with your partner and doctor. Ask why the procedure failed to see if there is any clarity to be gained.
Ultimately, it’s important to always listen to your intuition or inner voice. Trust that you know what’s best for you and your journey towards parenthood.
If you’re facing the heartbreak of a failed IUI or IVF attempt, know that you’re not alone. We hope that this episode has provided you with some guidance and support as you move forward towards your dreams of starting or growing your family.
What you’ll learn:
1:28 Why it’s important to speak your emotions
4:57 Treating failed IUI/IVF as miscarriage
7:30 Knowing the options
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Carolina Sotomayor is an Expert Womb Healer who helps women conceive by removing physiological blockages with Reiki. She is the host of the Carolina Sotomayor Podcast, a show that covers everything from fertility to postpartum to motherhood, and the creator of Fertility Foundation Collective, an online membership that helps women heal at their own pace to boost their fertility.
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Podcast Episode Transcript
Hi, I’m Carolina, your podcast host and expert wound healer. Over the past five years, I’ve served over 500 women to remove physical blockages in their bodies. We achieve this with Reiki. I believe healing doesn’t have to be done alone, nor should it be. We will hear stories of healing methods to heal with and guest speakers covering taboo topics you won’t hear anywhere else.
Let’s continue this journey of wound healing together.
Hi, I’m Carolina you’re Ricky, master and Womb healer and podcast host. Thank you for being here again. I’m so excited that we get to spend another week together and don’t forget to leave us a rating and review. We are so thankful for your support and our loyal listeners. Today’s topic is a little bit of a heavier one.
We’re gonna talk about what to do when your IUI or IVF fails. And this is an important topic because. People are always hopeful when they go into for fertility treatment. It’s gonna work out, but there’s no guarantee. And just even if you use Reiki or go through any type of fertility treatment, there’s no guarantee.
However, let’s talk about how to move through it cuz that’s what we do. We move through things, we don’t stuff them, we deal with them and we move through them so that we are later, we are lighter and we are releasing and living in a healthy state. So after your appointment, It’s so important for you to sit and share and speak your emotions.
I recently talked to a client in her I u I failed, and unfortunately her husband couldn’t go to the appointment with her and so she went to the appointment alone and she called her husband and. She acted like everything was fine, and when she called her other family acted like everything was fine. And when we spoke in our session and I said, but why?
And I know her family incredibly loves her, like they’re so close knit. And I said, why didn’t you share? She said that she cried alone and she was devastated that this didn’t work out. They had a previous i u I and they got pregnant. Um, the first. . So technically this is her second experience. Her first time that she did it, she got pregnant with her now son.
And I said, it’s okay to share your emotions. You’re not a burden to anyone. And I guarantee you, if they knew that you were hiding your emotions because you were trying to protect them, they would be mad. They want to show up for her, they want to support. They want to be there for her. So the people in your life most likely want to show up for you.
And if they don’t, then DM me. I’ll show up for you. Shouldn’t have to do this alone. Life is hard enough. Fertility is hard enough, but you shouldn’t have to do it alone. And guess what? The adults in your life, they have big pants, they can pull ’em up. Everyone’s an adult, you, they can handle it. It is okay even to fall apart if you need to.
It is okay to express any disappointment, anger, resentment, guilt, mistrust, anything that you’re feeling is valid. This is your journey. This is your story. This is happening to you. So of course your emotions are valid. You deserve to share them with those who support you and love you and are gonna hear you.
You deserve to be seen and heard. Take time to process. This is not gonna be okay Thursday and then next Wednesday we’re gonna try again. No, no, no, no, no, no. First of all, it doesn’t work that way in Two is that you can take breaks. You may not wanna do this back to back, month to month. Some people do.
Identify that this is an experience, is a loss. I often treat failed fertility treatments as a miscarriage. We honor it the same way, because you’re going with it with, I feel like it’s much heavier of an emotional experience because there’s so much that goes into it. There’s medication, sometimes there’s needles, there’s prep work, there’s multiple doctor visits.
Sometimes this is happening on a weekend. You know, with iis there’s a lot to do with stress and with work schedules and missing. So there’s a lot more than just traditional baby making ways. So with this, I want you to treat it like it’s a miscarriage cause you’re hoping and praying and you’re grieving that this didn’t work out.
And what does that entail? That means like honoring, like this is a big thing, not dusting this underneath the rug. It’s okay that you’re feeling the hurt and it sucks. Fucking sucks. We have to recognize that it, it has happened. Get a Reiki womb blessing and we can do this inside the membership. This allows a room to relax.
We harmonize emotion and we release any residual energy that’s stuck in the uterus, in pelvis. This is really important because if we have. Already when people come to work with me, their pelvis is overloaded with stuck emotion. That’s why they’re not conceiving. It’s stuck. So all of our emotions go to our pelvis, and if we don’t release ’em, they get stuck.
So it’s my job to unstuck people’s emotions so they can conceive. And they do that with reiki, but with the Reiki womb blessing and the meditation, it moves all of that. So you might wanna need, you need to do that more than once. And if you’re doing back to back or if you’ve had losses or failed fertility attempts and you’ve never cleared it, it also can complicate your ability to conceive if you don’t address all the energy that’s stuck in your pelvis.
So back to back failed fertility ones. We wanna make sure we’re doing a wound blessing for every single attempt that’s failed. Discuss next steps with your partner and your doctor. Ask the doctor, ask to see why. If there’s any explanation or any clarity that can be gained from this round, is there anything that we could do differently?
Is there anything that those hormones need to be adjusted? Does anything need to be changed in the fertility plan in order to, for you to conceive? Connect with your intuition. I can’t say this enough. A lot of women that are going through their fertility treatment ignore it. If you feel like you need to wait a month to health and doctor because they went to med school, but they’re not experts in your mind or your heart or your soul, they don’t know what’s going on inside of you.
So connect with your spirit and your intuition because girlfriend, you are trustworthy. Your instincts are spot. If you feel like maybe I need to wait a month or maybe even two months, then go ahead and do it. Go ahead and speak and at least discuss it with your doctor and see what the options are. Maybe a break needs to be considered.
Do you need a break? A break doesn’t mean that you’re quitting. The break allows you to live during those pockets of time that when you’re not trying to conceive or going through fertility treatment because it dominates your life when you are. Connect with your spirit, baby. What does spirit baby have to say?
Is there anything that they need to communicate further? Have you done that at all yet? But when you’re trying to conceive, we need to account for when baby wants to transcend and join you here. Sometimes a second opinion from another doctor or working with a traditional Chinese medicine doctor can allow a whole.
Not a symptom approach, but a holistic approach to help manage the stress and hormones and detox while you’re trying to conceive with these fertility treatments, Western and eastern medicine can get along and is a good marriage in between the two to provide you a full support system to conceive cuz so much goes into conceiving with these fertility treatments.
And lastly, always listen to your inner voice. You know best, you know your body. You live with it every day, you know best. So just recap what to do when your I U I or I V F fails. I want you to pause. I want you to listen to yourself. I want you to ask questions. I want you to release any emotions that come up and understand that they are valid emotions.
Don’t let anyone talk out of your talk. You out of how you feel. And investigate and understand that you still have choices. Do we need to change doctors or what’s the fertility plan options like now? And just trust yourself. And I know that’s really hard to do when everything feels like it’s going wrong.
As always, I would love to hear from you. I would love to know what you think about this episode. You can connect with me at the Carolina, so on Instagram or TikTok, send me a message. I wanna be best days until next week. Know that you’re loved and I’m here for you, and I can’t wait to hang out with you next week.
It was an honor to connect and serve you this week. If you are a spiritually curious person wanting to conceive, inhale blockages in your fertility, click the link in the episode description to learn more about the Fertility Foundation collective. Until next time, my friend, know your love.