You’ve done everything right.

You’ve tracked your cycle down to the hour. You’ve done the IUI, maybe even IVF. You’ve swallowed every supplement, drank every tea, cut the alcohol, changed your diet, reduced your stress — or tried to. You’ve spent thousands of dollars and years of your life on this. And month after month, you’re still not pregnant.

And the hardest part? Nobody can tell you why.

Your labs look “normal.” Your doctor says “keep trying.” And somewhere in the quiet of another negative test, a voice whispers: Is something wrong with me? Am I being punished? Will this ever happen?

Here’s what I want you to know: You are not out of options. And you are not crazy for sensing that something deeper is going on — something that no bloodwork is catching.

What’s missing from most fertility journeys isn’t another protocol. It’s healing.

The fertility industry was built around the physical body. It measures, stimulates, retrieves, and transfers. What it almost never addresses is the emotional body — the stored trauma, unprocessed grief, and nervous system dysregulation that can hold your womb closed no matter how perfect your timing is.

This is the work I do. And these are the seven steps that change everything.

Step 1: Stop Focusing Only on the Pregnancy — Cast a Vision for Your Motherhood

Most fertility journeys are completely fixated on one thing: the positive test. And I understand why. But when that’s the only goal, everything else — your healing, your partnership, your sense of self — gets sacrificed in pursuit of it.

The first step isn’t about getting pregnant. It’s about getting clear on what you actually want.

What does your motherhood look like? How do you want to feel in your body when you’re raising your child? What kind of home are you building? What generational patterns — the cycles of silence, of shrinking, of trauma — are you choosing to break? What are you keeping?

This matters because you cannot heal toward something you haven’t defined. And manifestation isn’t just about vision boards — it’s about the feeling behind the vision. When you can feel what it’s like to already be that mother, your body and your energy field begin to align with it. That feeling is where transformation begins.

Step 2: Get Brutally Honest About Where You Actually Are

Real healing doesn’t bypass. It doesn’t pretend. It doesn’t perform positivity while grief is rotting underneath.

This step asks you to look at your actual reality — not the version you post about, not the version you tell your mom. The real one.

How do you feel about your body right now? Not how you think you should feel — how you actually feel. Do you feel betrayed by it? Disconnected from it? Like it’s a problem to be solved instead of a home to live in?

How do you feel about your womb? Your cycle? Your fertility? Your partner? What triggers you? Where do you feel numb?

This isn’t self-criticism. This is self-sovereignty. When you become the authority on your own inner landscape — when you stop outsourcing your healing to doctors, protocols, and external systems — you start leading your own journey. That’s not just empowering. That’s essential. Because no one can heal you. They can only help you heal yourself.

Step 3: Identify the Blocks — Especially the Ones Nobody Talks About

Energetic blocks are not random. They are wounds. And they have a history.

This step involves looking at the full landscape of what your womb might be holding: your relationship with your mother, your father, other caregivers who shaped how safe the world felt. Past lovers. Your inner child. Ancestral patterns that were never healed. Past lives, if that resonates.

And then there’s the fertility journey itself — which nobody talks about as a source of trauma, but absolutely is.

An IUI that didn’t work. An egg retrieval with no viable embryos. A transfer that failed. A miscarriage. These experiences leave marks — not just emotional ones, but energetic ones, stored directly in the womb. The fertility industry sends you home with a pamphlet and expects you to try again. But your body remembers every single one of those moments.

Fear. Shame. Grief. The crushing need to control something — anything — when everything feels out of your hands. All of it gets imprinted on the nervous system. All of it keeps your body in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. And your body was never designed to conceive from that place.

Step 4: Find the Root — Because It Almost Never Started Last Year

When something triggers a big reaction in you — the pregnancy announcement that wrecks you for a week, the appointment where the doctor dismissed you and you couldn’t stop shaking — it’s worth asking: how old does this actually feel?

Because here’s the truth: when we react from a place of deep pain, we’re almost never responding as our current adult selves. We’re responding as a younger version of ourselves — the one who first felt invisible, unsafe, dismissed, or like too much.

The first time you felt rejected. The first time you were made to feel small. The first time you learned that staying quiet caused less conflict. That moment — wherever it lives — is where the root of the block almost always is.

Your womb reflects what it’s holding. Your fertility reflects the emotional environment of your inner world. And until you go back to that first moment, surface-level healing will only take you so far.

Step 5: Return to the Origin — Go Back and Heal Her

Once you’ve found the root — the moment, the age, the version of you who first experienced the wound — you go back. Not to relive it. Not to be swallowed by it again. But to bring healing to the part of you that has been waiting for it ever since.

This is where Reiki becomes transformative in a way that’s hard to explain until you’ve experienced it. Reiki energy is sent back to that version of you — the little girl, the teenager — who is still holding what happened. She gets to receive what she always needed: safety, comfort, the words that were never said, the hug that never came.

You’re not just healing the past. You’re completing something that was left unfinished. And when that happens, something shifts in the present — because the version of you that was still stuck in that moment begins to come home.

Step 6: Provide the Energetic Medicine — This Is What Your Womb Has Been Missing

In a Reiki healing session — whether one-on-one or in a group container — you become the healer of your own younger self. You give her what was missing in that moment. The embrace. The words. The feeling of mattering.

A six-year-old version of you who learned to disappear might need to hear: You will never be left behind. You matter. I’m not going anywhere.

And you get to say those words. You get to give that to her.

What happens next is something my clients describe over and over: they feel lighter. Something lifts. They stop white-knuckling every doctor’s appointment. They stop bracing. They start breathing fully — maybe for the first time in years.

Because every time you heal a wound, you retrieve a piece of yourself that was taken in that moment. You become more whole. More embodied. More sovereign. The tissues of your womb begin to hold a higher frequency. One that is open. One that can receive.

Step 7: Transform Your Womb Environment — Make It Safe for Your Spirit Baby to Arrive

Once the old trauma has been cleared, there’s space. And what you put in that space matters.

If the old belief was I stay quiet because it causes less conflict, the new truth that gets to live there is: I am allowed to take up as much space as I need. My voice matters. I am safe to express myself fully.

That’s not just an affirmation. That’s a rewiring — emotional, nervous system, and energetic. When safety returns to your body, it returns to your womb. And safety is the foundational requirement for conception, not just physically, but at every level.

To receive your spirit baby, you have to be able to receive. A womb that is grounded, open, and regulated is a womb that is ready. This is what womb healing actually does — it doesn’t manufacture a pregnancy, it removes what was preventing one.

What the Fertility Industry Doesn’t Want You to Know

The mainstream fertility industry is not bad. The doctors are not villains. But the system was built around the physical body, and it has almost no infrastructure for what lives underneath — the emotional, energetic, and nervous system layers where so much of fertility struggle actually originates.

When a woman tells her doctor she feels disconnected from her womb, she gets a referral for a therapist if she’s lucky. Nobody asks what trauma her womb is holding. Nobody asks what her nervous system sounds like. Nobody asks her how she felt the first time she learned to make herself small.

That gap — between what medicine offers and what women actually need — is exactly where this work lives.

Reiki womb healing isn’t a replacement for medical care. It’s what goes deeper than medical care can reach. It’s what the system doesn’t know to offer, and what your body has been waiting for.

What Actually Changes When You Do This Work

Women who move through this framework don’t just report feeling better. They report becoming different:

• Less reactive, more grounded — responding from their adult self instead of their wounded child
• Deeply reconnected to their body, their cycle, and their womb
• Releasing the need to control outcomes that were never in their hands
• Experiencing real hope — not the forced, performative kind, but genuine inner peace
• Feeling emotionally available in their partnerships in ways they haven’t been for years
• Conceiving — naturally, and sometimes after years of failed treatments

Over 110 Reiki babies and counting. Not because the work is magic. Because the healing is real.

You Don’t Have to Keep Doing This Alone

If you’ve been on this journey for a while — if you’ve tried everything and you’re still waiting — this is your sign that there’s another layer to go.

Not another supplement. Not another protocol. Another kind of healing entirely.

Your spirit baby is already reaching for you. The question is whether your womb is open enough to receive them. This work is how you get there.

Join our free Make a Baby community on the Skool platform.

It’s a free space where women who are done being told to “just relax” come to do the real work — together. Healing, connection, and community. No toxic positivity. No more feeling like you’re the only one.

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