Whew…that Friday morning when my mother-in-law called and delivered the most shocking news. She said my father in law and her were moving to Kansas. I immediately had tears in my eyes and lost my breath. My husband and I listened to their reasons and lovingly expressed our unconditional support.
I did not know having my in laws move away would be so devastating. I allowed myself time and space to feel the depth of the loss of their presence and realization our relationship would not be the same. I felt sadness for our son, Ollie, who loves his Mimi and Pop Pop so dearly.
This experience of deep emotions shifted me quickly. I saw that each visit with them was so special and limited. I showed up the most present I ever have. I started cooking for them once a week. I planned more meaningful outings to create memories as a family before they move. I asked myself why did it take them to move for me to show up in these big, impactful ways?
I had always been a great daughter in law…loving, kind, generous, and supportive. However, I unknowingly took their presence for granted. This was a wake up call for me. I have always heard “show up for your clients, be authentic on your social media”. But what if we show up in our closest relationships with raw vulnerability, true authenticity, and real presence? What would be the impact and changes in our relationships if we were brave and conscious enough to show up in these ways?
I further reflected this breakthrough and my angels told me that this is how I am meant to change the world during this highly uncertain time with politics and pandemic. Connecting with people in these ways gave the other person permission to be share their heart openly. This love exchange raises the frequency of each person and has a ripple effect. This effect is what can and will change the world.
I invite you…I urge you…I give you permission to show up in your relationships by being present, sharing your emotions, and creating safe spaces in your life for people to do the same.
If you need someone to create a safe space to share you feelings, then reply to this email. I am here for you in and out of Reiki sessions. I am your friend.
With all my heart, I send you this affirmation to say over the next week:
Love and Light,